Him answering a question at a forum (probably at a college campus), "How many partners is too many?" Note how sex here is totally about potential danger, disease, death, and spoilage. There's no critique of anyone viewing an arbitrary number as problematic and fraught with normative assumptions about appropriate sexuality. There's no celebration of an exploration of pleasure, orgasm, and transformative sex. He even sums up his view pretty clearly when he notes his friends who fucked too much in the 70s and regretted those choices in 80s -- um... are you referring to the fact that they may have died of AIDS, Dan?

I'm reminded of Eric Rofes' statement from his "Gay Bodies, Gay Selves," manifesto:

In most of America today -- including most gay centers, health clinics, and AIDS prevention programs -- one can find others who look at gay men's sexual practices, patterns of socializing, and cultural norms as troubling. Here one can find professionals who'll examine gay male subculture, shake their heads, and point out what's wrong. Whether the subculture involves urban street youth, bears, circuit boys, Black MSM's, bare-backers, muscle boys, or leather men, you can find someone who'll point out substance abuse, obesity, narcissism, low self-esteem, food disorders, and internalized homophobia as major themes of gay male life in America. You can create programs, write grants, establish projects, and make speeches decrying the "epidemic of epidemics" facing gay men, expressing surprise and dismay at the sexual practices of gay men, and identifying homophobia, internalized or externalized, as the dominant force influencing gay male life today.

But you're wrong. You'll win grant funding. You'll get great press coverage. You'll sell books. You'll win community service awards. But you're wrong.

You would be popular because you would buy fully into the dominant thinking about gay men that reigns throughout American culture today. Whether taking the form of pity or disgust, sincere concern or superficial empathy, blaming or shaming, the overarching understanding of gay men's lives today is one of tragedy and pathos. Why are they so sex obsessed? Why do they do so many drugs? Why do they use steroids, work out obsessively, and dye their hair as they age? Why do they have to cruise all the time? You'd be affirming the overarching belief that gay male culture is immature, irresponsible, and irrational.

It kills me that Dan Savage is our spokersperson / media whore these days. He's no better than the same shit we hear about sex all the time. Make no mistake about it. He's gay. But he's a conservative when it comes to sex.

Via Knucklecrack.